The Male Gaze, the Mirror, and the ROI of Looking Like Yourself

Is my facelift for me… or him?

Recently, I spent a week in Los Angeles visiting friends, consulting plastic surgeons, and pretending it was all just light shopping. One night, at the top of the new Soho House Holloway, I found myself deep in a very serious conversation with a rather diverse group of gal pals. The topic on the table being: Is all of this actually just about looking be…